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    Posted: 15December2014 at 12:54pm
The question of who we are to ourselves versus who we are to other people is an important one to consider.  We've all known the people who think themselves to be kind and considerate and well-loved, never suspecting that most other people can't stand them or the things they do.  We've seen and met the people who quite hypocritically say that they're one thing and act like something else.  It's not pleasant for us to witness this, and it does not lead to a pleasant life for people who act this way.

If we're going to be true, it's important that we're first of all true to ourselves, and then true to the other people in our lives.  In order for both of these conditions to be met, there must be congruence between the face that we put on for ourselves and that we put on for others.  We must make sure that we're not lying, that we're being truthful both to ourselves and to other people.  Otherwise, we will reach a point at which we're not quite sure just which person we are truly, for the faces we've presented are not of the same people.

I've heard and read many accounts of the man who's loved at the office and the life of the party, but who gets home and acts like a tyrant, treating his family terribly.  Everyone's surprised when his wife leaves him, because he's such a "nice guy."  But why could he never be nice to his family?

So who are you?  Are you the person who talks to a young child, the person who makes jokes with co-workers, the person who talks tenderly to his or her spouse, or the person who's frustrated in line at the bank?  If we take care to be honest at all times, then each of these people will be consistently you.  If we insist on playing roles and allowing our actions and thoughts to change depending on which people we're with, then it will be very hard to be sure of just which one is the true us.

We can confuse ourselves, or we can be true and never doubt just who or what we are.  And doesn't it sound better to live without confusion simply because we've chosen to be honest always, to everyone?
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Great Article....!!!

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Great Article with one word of caution... Being true to ourself 100% is perfect way to start of the amazing journey of honesty... 

But we must be cautious of others who do not take time to even ponder upon this very fact :)

So if we are true to them, we may end up lossing our job or loved relationship or be killed too out of rage of someone else PLUS MANY MORE CONSEQUENCES :)

So, we must discrimate between who else we are true and honest to apart from our self... 

This important demarcation helps us to continue in our self discovery without being stopped by anybody else especially those who do not take time to discover the TRUTH first :) Happens :) Always :)
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Double role or double face…….I feel that most of  us play so many roles.

A different role  with every individual …be it daughter, mother, sister, wife, CO-worker,  neighbor, professional… or friend. The fact remains that one should  be  true to every relation.. when you are genuine, you don’t have to show off in either of any relationship.

 

And the other side of people should also be reciprocal in each relationship… Sometimes we expect more but give nothing and this causes unpleasant circumstances…. And few start playing with each other, few  start playing double role and few leave relationships….

 

Genuineness is necessitated to  sustain  every relation……

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Very True ji
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Ur Frnd - Jaspreet Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 16January2015 at 12:26am
Exactly...

At some time of point, especially every morning, if we sit ideal and figure out one simple question :

Am I a Human Mind or a Human Being ?

This simple way of innocent questioning to your self can solve a problem of double face :)

Even while talking with someone, I first listen carefully am I talking with a Human Mind or a Human Being and then respond accordingly to make sure he / she understand my message :)
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Khoji Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 23January2015 at 9:23pm
Faith is the cure that heals all troubles. Without faith there is no hope and no love. Faith comes before hope, and before love
One may not be where one needs to be, but thank God one is not where one used to be.





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Exactly :)
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